I was going to do a mushy blog entry. But after yesterdays blog from Shel, I decided to give y'all a break from the love fest for a day or two.
I was catching up on my morning blog reading and I came across Sheila's post for the day. She had a video posted that really spoke to me.
I struggle with this. With 3 boys, it really can feel like I'm invisible at times. But I've come to accept it with them. I know they love me, and appreciate the things I do.
The area I struggle with this the most is with my relationship with Shel. Not that Shel acts as if I'm invisible. Just the opposite. The great thing about a soul mate is as you're having a thought, your soul mate is picking up on it. So much so that there are times Shel will ask "whats wrong?" before I even finish processing whatever it is that's bothering me.
My struggle comes with those who act as if our relationship is invisible. It's hard when those you care about take issue, and treat something that's special to you as if it weren't there. Or not valid.
I truly believe that we are meant to be together. If I were to sit down and tell you how our lives have been woven together over the years, how we've both tried to ignore it, tried to live our lives apart only to be thrown together over and over, I think you'd believe it too. But... should I have to do that? Should I have to defend and justify our relationship?
Have you ever known you should do something, but then done the exact opposite? Doesn't really work out too good, does it? Have you ever tried to mess with The Plan? Anyone who thinks that God doesn't have a sense of humour should try it... Try challenging His will, or ignore what he's telling you. You'll find out then what a great sense of humour he has. :P
So after longer then I care to remember, we both gave up and said... OK... its what You want, its what we want. Lets go for it. And because we've done that, because we've made some incredibly hard choices, those plans and dreams we had, they're coming through. Those tough choices are being honoured. We are happier then either of us ever dreamed, and I think it only takes a few min around us to know that.
So should I be upset by people who don't or wont acknowledge us? I think instead I'll focus on what we're building. On the example of love we are setting for our kids to pass on to theirs, and for the mentoring we are doing as our children break off into their own relationships. I am happy, overjoyed and ecstatic with what WE are building. and for how it will be remembered 100 years from now.